Personal Relationships at Work

While the office is a place for new relationships to be forged, many a time existing personal relationships get extended into the official domain. So it is not uncommon to find husbands and wives school / college sweethearts and friends and blood relatives sharing tasks and responsibilities at the workplace. Some people find it easy to work with their kith and kin around while the others find it a tad awkward. The fact is that such a possibility cannot be ruled out and one must be equipped to deal with it.

Personal Experience:

Software professional RS and his girlfriend have been working at the same office for the past two years, albeit in different teams. He says ‘we never let our personal and professional equations mix up. While at work we ensured that our conduct was in keeping with the corporate discipline’. He adds it is advisable to avoid intersection of individuals and professional issues; else it leads to strife in both the aspects of one life. In a case couples working at the same workplace they are best advised to clearly demarcate personal and corporate lives. If both threaten to spill into one another there may be only chaos and loss of peace of mind.

Here are some of the ways in which one can deal with personal relationships at the workplace.

Common code of conduct: At the office everyone should be treated in accordance with the offices rules, then it is just a colleague or someone whom we know personally as well. Showing favoritism or partisan behavior at work is the last thing one is expected to do. After all at the workplace everyone is working towards a common objective.

Love at work: While it may be a good feeling to have one’s romantic partner in the same office, it is a good idea to avoid frequently meeting up or excessively bumping into each other when at work. It can not only distract the people involved in the relationships but also co-workers who witness these chance encounters. Besides there are cafeterias in most offices where one generally meets without interfering in others’ work.

Also, getting physical or intimate within premises is considered an offence and can invite strict action from the higher ups. Such conduct could also prove to be a blemish on one’s career.

No nepotism: favoring one’s relatives at work is also something that should be avoided. One cannot and should not let any other parameter be counted at the workplace other than our merit. There are times when one may get with nepotism but more often than not it is noticed by other employees and it reflects negatively on the organization’s culture.

Friends forever: The best of school and college friendships at times sour once they reach the corporate boardroom. One reason for this is that while during academic years these friends would share every secret the same would not be the case once they reunite in the corporate world. Such issues then get blown up and egos get bruised, friendship then is the final casualty. Besides with new relationships being formed at the workplace one does not even realize that some old things have been left behind.

It is crucial for every employee to realize that observing corporate discipline and working towards the success of the organization is of primary importance. And in order to maintain this, personal relationship at the workplace should be handled sensitively. There are moments where personal ties may take precedence over professionals ties or vice versa at such times it is left best to the discretion of the persons involved to decide what is right for him /her.

Excerpts from Mumbai Mirror