Overcoming disappointments at work

In every person’s career, there are moments when things don’t go according to plan and something truly disappointing happens. Perhaps you don’t get the promotion that you assumed was yours. Or you receive a surprisingly critical review when you thought you were a stellar performer.

Your boss takes another job leaving you with a supervisor you can’t stand. Or you get caught in an inter-office dispute and get labeled ‘The Bad Guy’. Then there are those really big disappointments like sudden layoffs or re-locations.

When faced with these disappointments, it’s tempting to feel hurt, angry, betrayed, and disgusted. You may get depressed, feel deflated, and put your head in the sand. Or, you may react by mouthing off, erupting at others, stomping off in righteous indignation.

Either way, you take a nose dive into emotionally dark territory. Rather than linger in those dark waters, it is encouraging to take steps to recover from the disappointment, and pull one self out of the emotional swamp. The following are some tips that any employee can follow to weather any stormy situation at work, and pull out of the depths.

When something horrible happens to us, our bodies act like sponges and absorb the pain. Part of pulling yourself out of the depths involves tending to your physical well being so that your body can release the sadness, anger, frustration and pain that it took as a result of the bad incident. Getting physical can include working out on a regular basis, getting massages, taking baths and going outside for walks in nature . Find ways for your body to release the toxins and bring you back to a healthier state.

Safe harbors are the people and places where you don’t have to put on your game face and where you can get emotional support to move forward. When you crash and burn whether you’ve lost a job, ended a relationship or suffered a catastrophe you’ll get out of the depths faster if you turn to harbors to buoy you up until you can float on your own

People who can hear your story without judgement and help you put the pieces of your life back together. A safe harbor could be a trusted friend, a support group, a spiritual fellowship or a paid professional.
Use your safe. There is no situation so bad that excess drinking, drugging or eating won’t make worse.

When we’re in emotional pain, it’s tempting to turn to drugs, alcohol, chocolate, ice cream, donuts, and other substances for escape. The problem is that those substances make you feel good in the short run and worse in the long run. What is your drug of choice? If you know what it is, avoid it when you’re in the depths. Most substances used in excess are depressants and take us deeper into the hole rather than pulling us out.

Bad things do happen to good people. In fact, they are often tough lessons on the road to our greatest successes. When you experience some kind of career disappointment or business disaster, it’s easy to think, “Why me?” To pull yourself out of the depths, re-focus on your initial goal before anything bad happened: Did you want to do work that you love? Do you want great financial success? Would you like to influence others or contribute to society in some way? Re-focus on the goals that you are truly passionate about and take small steps everyday to get there.

You may not feel like getting up in the morning. You may not feel like getting dressed and going to work. Recovering from workplace disappointments requires a certain amount of faking it until you make it — acting as if you are okay and heading towards greater things. Dress as if you care about yourself, talk as if you believe in your future, and put yourself in the company of people who see you in the same light.

In conclusion develop self ability to cope up with the bad situation and try to achieve normalcy. Learn from the mistakes which might have caused the unwanted situation and move ahead with more determined vigor. This will preclude bad situations of future.