Take the case of Mr.x, he has good control over temper, mood swings, but when it comes to envy, he is as green as a caterpillar. Being jealous of colleagues is a natural phenomenon. You just have to ensure that it doesn’t affect your work and your relationship with your colleagues.
However, envy can prove to be a quite a disruptive emotion at the workplace. Often times, it’s about who gets the cushiest or most sought after assignments, who gets promotions etc. The problem is that people feel it’s immature or wrong to discuss this emotion openly, so they carry it around instead which breeds resentment and ill feelings.
It is one of the main causes of employee disengagement and productivity less. People who feel envious and resentful are more likely to look for alternative employment as well. So, here’s how to handle this monstrous emotion at the workplace.
People with high self esteem report fewer problems to bolster your self esteem by focusing your thoughts on the good things in life.
Create more of a team culture, one in which people work co-operatively and have a shared purpose.
Engage in a lot more sharing and decisions making. That is, explain decisions and then get inputs from others in the team. Don’t let people speculate endlessly. If some problems come up, inform others and allow possible feelings to air out in the open.
If you are the victim of workplace envy, know that the roots of envy are born out of the other person’s low self worth not on your un-deservingness. Also, recognize and even expect the envious person’s negative actions against you don’t be surprised.
Lack of consideration from a boss/supervisor of his/her unfair favoring select people in the organization fuels more jealousy and envy among subordinates than do bosses who were perceived as nurturing and fair.
Competing for limited resources and/or important assignments can trigger envy. For example losing a promotion to someone better qualified can bring about envious feelings.
Having a low self-esteem resulting from a social comparison threatens a person’s self image. For example, another person has something (superior, quality, achievement, possession etc) that the envying person considers to be important to have.
Those who are most distrustful of themselves are the most envious of others. Envy basically puts forth one question: Why not me? Why am I not smart, popular, considered to be deserving etc?
Now coming back to actual work situation, the question and answer session at the end of a presentation is the final test. This is when your audience can actually gauge how well you know your subject matter and can confirm how and what you have on offer is pertinent to their business. Make sure that you max out in this exam by doing the following:
Prepare for the questions: Anticipate what questions can come up. Your own presentation can give you clues as to what kind of questions it will trigger. Make sure you have ‘rehearsed’ the answers.
The most important thing when a person is asking a question is to listen to it closely and understand the query. Never start answering unless you have processed all the information that is being asked for. Watch out for the loaded questions and read between the Lines.
There are always some people who just take pleasure in riling the one on the podium. If someone begins to dominate the session answer his current questions and then move on to include others in the interaction, only coming back to him when all the other questions have been answered. Don’t get pushed into giving yes and no answers always keep your replies in context.
There could be occasions when a person in the audience does not agree with your views or poses a question that you don’t know the answers to. At such times don’t get defensive and certainly don’t try and bluff your way out at the situation. Use humor as a gentle medium to disagree politely, rephrase the question to under score your viewpoint, if possible divert the questions to an aspect that you do know well or be honest and say that you will get back to them with the answers.
There could also be an uncomfortable silence when no one in the audience has any questions to ask. At such times, break the ice by reverting of your presentation that will encourage interaction and ask your audience what they think. Also offer to individuality answer questions if they so prefer.