No one is always depressed whether at work place or any where else. Depression isn’t a permanent condition like losing a leg. It’s a state that people can get in to and out of. In fact, most people who are experiencing depression have had many happy experiences in their lives may be even as many or more than the average person. They just don’t represent these experiences to themselves in a bright, large, associated way they may also represent happy times as far away instead of close. Take a moment now and remember an event that happened last week and push it far away. Does it seem as recent an experience to you any more? What if you bring it closer? Doesn’t it now seem more recent? Some people take their happy experiences of the moment and push them far away so they seem like long ago, and store their problems up close. Haven’t you ever heard a person say, “I just need to get a break from my work? You don’t have to fly to some distant land to do this. Just relax at home with family or go to nearest resort and push them far away from you in your mind and notice the difference. People who feel depressed often have their brains filled to capacity with big, loud, close, heavy, insistent images of the bad times and only thin, gray wafers for the good times. The way to change isn’t to wallow in the bad memories; it’s to change the sub-modalities the very structure of the memories themselves. Next, link what used to make you feel bad to new representations that make you feel like taking the challenges of life with vigor, humor, patience, and strength.
Some people say wait a second, you can’t change things so quickly. Why not? It’s often much easier to grasp something in a flash than over a long period of time. That’s how the brain learns to relax. Think of how you watch a movie. You view thousands of frames and put them together into a dynamic whole. What if you watched one frame and then an hour later looked at another and then a day or two later watched a third? Personal change can work the same way. If you do something, if you make a change in your mind right now, if you change your state and your behavior, you can show your self in the most impressive way at work. That’s more potent jolt than months of anguished thought. Quantum physics tell us that things do not change slowly over time they make quantum leaps. We jump from one level of experience to another. If you don’t like how you feel, change what you represent to yourself. It’s that simple.
Let’s look at another example – love. Love, for most of us, is a wonderful, ethereal, almost mystical experience. It’s also important, from a modeling point of view, to note that love is a state, and like all states, all results, it is produced by specific sets of actions or stimuli when they are perceived or represented in certain ways. How do you fall in love? One of the most important perceptual ingredients of falling in love is associating with all things you love about someone and disassociating from the things you don’t, falling in love can be such a heady, disorienting feeling because it’s not a balanced one. You’re not making a balance sheet of a person’s good and bad qualities, running it through a computer and seeing what comes out. You’re totally associated with a few elements of another person that you find intoxicating. You’re not even aware, in that moment, at least, of that person’s faults.