You now have the resources to take absolute charge of your life. You have the ability to form the internal representations and produce the states that lead to success and power. But having the ability isn’t always the same as using it. There are certain experiences that time and again put people in un-resourceful states. There are bends in the road, rapids in the river that some people time ad time again. There are experiences that consistently prevent people from being all they can be. In this article, we want to give you a map showing where the perils are and what you need to know to overcome them.
We call these the five keys to wealth and happiness. If you’re going to use all the abilities you now have, if you’re going to be all you can be, you’re going to have to understand these keys. Every person who is successful has to sooner or later if you do, if you can handle them consistently, your life will be indomitable success.
One night, a professor (P) was taking a midnight stroll at Copley Square in Boston was taking a look at the buildings which range from modern skyscrapers to structures as old America, when he noticed a man wobbling back and forth, coming his way. The man looked as though he’d been sleeping in the street for weeks. He smelled of alcohol and looked as if he hadn’t shaved for months.
P figured he would come up and beg for money. Well, as you think, so you attract. He approached and asked, Mister, could you loan me a quarter? First P asked himself if he wanted to reward his behavior. Then told self he didn’t want him to suffer. Either way, a quarter was not going to make much difference. So P figured the least and could do was try to teach him a lesson. A quarter? That’s you want, a quarter? And he said, just a quarter. So P reached into pocket, pulled out a quarter and said, Life will pay any price you ask of it. The guy looked stunned and then he staggered away.
As P watched him go, he thought the differences between those who succeed and those who fail. P thought, What’s the difference between him and me? Why is my life such a joy that I can do whatever I want, whenever I want, wherever I want, with whomever I want, as much as I want? He may be sixty years old and living in the street, begging for quarter. If God come down and say, P, you’ve been good. You get to live your dream life? It’s not likely. Did someone give me superior resources or advantages? Not so. P was once in a state almost as bad as his, although P didn’t drink as much alcohol or sleep in the street.
Part of the difference is the answer he gave him – that life will pay you whatever you ask of it. Ask for a quarter, and that’s what you’ll get. Ask for resounding joy and success, you’ll get that, too. Everything studied convinces P that if you learn to manage your states and manage your behaviors, you can change anything. You can learn what to ask of life, and you can be sure to get it. Over the following months, P met more street people and asked them about their lives and how they got there. He began to find we had similar challenges in common. The difference was how we handled them.
We have identified five things to use as road signs to success. There’s nothing profound or abstruse about them. But they are absolutely crucial. If your master them, there is no limit to what you can do. If you don’t use them, you’ve already placed the limits on how high you can go. Affirmative and positive thinking are a start, but they’re not the full answer. Affirmation without discipline is the beginning of delusion. Affirmation with discipline creates miracles.
Here’s the first key to the creation of wealth and happiness. You must learn how to handle frustration. If you want to become all you can become, do all you can do, hear all you can hear, see all you can see. You’ve got to learn how to handle frustration. Frustration can kill dreams. It happens all the time. Frustration can change a positive attitude into a negative one, an empowering state into a crippling one. The worst thing a negative attitude does is wipe out self discipline. And when that discipline is gone, the results you desire are gone.
So to ensure long term success, you must learn how to discipline your frustration. Let me tell you something. The key to success is massive frustration. Look at almost any great success, and you will find there has been massive frustration along the way. Anybody who tells you otherwise does not know anything about achieving. There are two kinds of people – those who have handled frustration and those who wish they had.
There’s a little company called Federal Express. A guy named Fred Smith started the company, and he built a multimillion dollar business out of mounds of frustration. When he started the company, after financing it with every dime he had, he hoped to deliver approximately 150 packages. Instead, he delivered sixteen, five of which the business sent to the home of one of its employees. Things got worse from there. Periodically, employees cashed their payroll checks at convenience stores because funds weren’t available to cover the checks. Many times their planes were in the process of being repossessed, and sometimes they had to bring in a certain amount in sales during a day to keep operating. Federal Express is now a billion dollar company. The only reasons it is still there is that Fred Smith was able to handle frustration upon frustration.