The greatest gift that Optimum Performance Technologies provide us is that they teach us how to handle frustration in an effective way. You can take things that used to make you frustrated and program them so they make you excited. Tools like NLP are not just positive thinking. The problem with positive thinking is that you have to think about it and by that time, it is often too late to do what you want to do.
What NLP offers is a way to turn stress into opportunity. You already know how to take the images that once depressed you and make them wither and disappear or change them to the images that bring you ecstasy. It’s not hard to do. You already know how.
Here is a two step formula for handling stress. Step 1: Don’t sweat the small stuff. Step 2: Remember, it’s all small stuff.
All successful people learn that success is buried on the other side of frustration. Unfortunately, some people don’t get to the other side. People who fail to achieve their goals usually get stopped by frustration. They allow frustration to keep them from taking the necessary actions that would support them in achieving their desire. You get through this road block by plowing through frustration, taking each setback as feedback you can learn from, and pushing ahead. You will find many successful people who have not experienced this.
Here is the second key. You must learn how to handle rejection. Is there anything in the human language with more sting than the tiny word “no”? If you’re in sales, what’s the difference between making $100,000 and making $25,000? The main difference is learning how to handle rejection so that this fear no longer stops you from taking action. The best salesmen are those who are rejected the most. They are the ones who can take any “no” and use it as a prod to go onto the next “yes”.
The biggest challenge for people in our culture is that they can’t handle the word “no”. Remember the question what would you do if you knew you could not fail? Think about it now. If you knew you couldn’t fail, would that change your behavior? Would that allow you to do exactly what you want to do? So what is keeping you from doing it? It is that tiny word “no”. To succeed, you must learn how to cope with rejection, learn how to strip that rejection of all its power.
A high jumper had been an Olympic athlete but had reached the point where he no longer could jump his hat size. One could see immediately what his problem was when watched him jump. Sure enough, he hit the bar and started going through all sorts of emotional gyrations. He turned each failure into a big event. He was called and told that if he wanted to work with the expert, he would never do that again. He was storing the whole thing as failure. He was sending a message to his brain that reinforced the image of failure, so it was there the next time he jumped. Each time he jumped, his brain was more concerned with failing than with being in the resourceful state that brings success.
It was told to him if he hit the bar again, he should tell himself, Aha! Another distinction, not, @ # & * @ ! % $ * !!! Another failure. He should put himself back into a resourceful state and go for it again. Within three jumps he was performing better tan he had in two years. It doesn’t take a lot to change. The difference between seven feet and six feet four inches is only 10 percent. It’s not a big difference in height, but it’s a big difference in performance. In the same way, small changes can make a big change in the quality of your life.
Ever hear of a guy named Rambo? Sylvester Stallone? Did he just show up at the door of some agent or studio and hear, hey, we like your body. We’re going to put you in a movie? Not exactly. Sylvester Stallone became a success because he was able to withstand rejection after rejection. When he started out, he was rejected more than a thousand times. He went to every agent he could find in New York, and everyone said no. But he kept pushing, kept trying, and finally he made a movie called Rocky. He could hear the word “no” a thousand times and then go knock on door 1,001.
How many “no’s” can you take? How many times have you wanted to go up and talk to someone you found attractive, then decided not to do it because you didn’t want to hear the word “no”? How many of you decided not to try for a job or make a sales call or audition for a part because you didn’t want to be rejected? Think about how crazy that is. Think how you’re creating limits just because of your fear of that little two letter word. The word itself has no power. It can’t cut your skin or sap your strength. Its power comes from the way you represent it to yourself. Its power comes from the limits it makes you create. And what do limited thoughts create?